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Jill Robin Payne

Jill Robin Payne, MA, LPC-S, LCDC, is a Licensed Professional Counselor – Supervisor and a Licensed Chemical Dependency counselor who is also Certified in Equine Assisted Psychotherapy (EAGALA).

Meet Jill

Jill was the first student from her college to intern at the National Institutes of Health in Bethesda, Maryland. She interned at the Veterans Administration Hospital in Houston for her master’s degree. While working at Bellaire Hospital in Houston she authored a guide for positive rehabilitative activities for the emotionally and physically challenged. 

During her over 40 years of work experience in the mental health field, she has given numerous lectures, taught college level Behavior Modification as an adjunct professor, is an author who continues managing a diverse practice. She is heard on all social media outlets plus local and national radio and television stations commenting on the intersection of current events and social psychology. 

Jill is a member of the American Counseling Association, Houston Alumnae Chapter of ZTA, Texas State Society and a life time member of the Houston Livestock Show and Rodeo. She holds a Bachelor of Science Degree in Recreational Therapy from Longwood University and a Master’s Degree in Clinical/Counseling Psychology with honors from Houston Christian University.

Jill’s practice is devoted to advancing the notion that seeking advice for mental health is as important as seeking advice for physical health. With a background in Pilates certification, reiki mastery, an undergraduate degree in recreation therapy, and a master’s in psychology, she developed a concept that she copyrighted and trademarked as Bempathy® – a term she herself coined. Bempathy® represents a unique approach to communication and social skills, combining banter with empathy to build and maintain harmonious reciprocal relationships. All of Jill’s work and efforts stem directly from the heart. Her passion is to ‘Spread the Goodness’ using the synergy of mind, body, and Bempathy®.

Jill is very versatile as a parade grand marshal and meeting a US president in the Rose Garden, to being a published author and motivational speaker. Jill works to empower individuals in the choice and meaning of their relationships through lectures in seminars and symposiums at Texas Medical Center, Ultimate Women’s Expo, West Houston Medical Center, The Empowered Summit, National Conference of States Societies, Embassies and Diplomatic Corporations, United Cerebral Palsy Telethon, HARCH, Rotary, and at numerous health and civic clubs in Houston and Washington, D.C. She has contracted at pain clinics and partial hospitalization programs throughout her career as a psychotherapist to facilitate stress, pain and anger management programs, and to provide cognitive behavioral therapy.

Her newly published books, Bempathy® Looking thru Children’s Eyes to Simplify Communication and Meeting People: It’s Not a Game: Your Path to Genuine Connections thru Bempathy® can be purchased on Amazon.  Her next book, Bempathy® Simplify Communication by Looking at the Third Side of the Coin is coming out soon. 

She resides in Houston, Texas where she maintains a private practice and lives with her husband. Her son Taylor, is doing his residency in Family Medicine.

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I have only great things to say about Jill's approach and therapy. I had so much I needed to deal and heal from and she knew how to unpack it. Jill had a plan for me, she knew the work she gave me would improve my well being. I highly recommend her for not only therapy but for life coaching. I am finally the person I once was, happy and enjoying every day!

-V Former Client

Jill is simply amazing. Her approach is more from a coaching perspective which has allowed me to build my self confidence in my own processing and decision making. She has great insight and leadership to guide you in achieving your goals and becoming your best self! Thanks so much Jill, I’m forever grateful.

-J Former Client

I wanted to send you an official thank you [to Jill] for all the great sessions we had over the past few years...I really appreciate all the work you did with me. I am in such a better place because of your expertise and guidance... It’s been an absolute blast getting to know you.

-V Former Client

She has helped me with my anxiety at work, my previous relationship, and how to be more kind with myself. I highly, highly recommended anyone who needs someone to talk to about anxiety, grief, stress, or any other situations that can happen to us to see her. Jill will gladly help and is very understanding!

-E Former Client

If I could give Jill 100 stars I would, she’s that amazing! Going through such a hard time she helped me not only understand myself and my emotions more but she also helped me in my relationship. Something she often refers to as Bempathy, crazy word....crazy results! I’ve become more confident with myself and sharing my feelings in a healthy way.

-K Former Client

Jill Robin Payne shines light on my blind spots! She’s helped me to better understand women and develop a much greater sense of self-awareness. By listening to my needs and problems she figured out what’s been holding me back, and what I need to change to move forward without obstacles. Her dating advice was not only practical and fun, but gave me a greater power and control over my love life. Personal matters deserve personal attention and Jill helped me to get the love I wanted.

-J Former Client

Jill is a wonderful therapist that simplifies dating and making a relationship work! She gives you practical advice that is easy to follow and makes sense. As a couple that met and got married in our 40s, my husband & I had our fair share of baggage. Jill has helped me realize that I will never find the perfect partner, but I can find one that is perfect for me, and with the right tools, can have a loving, healthy relationship. I highly recommend her for help with dating and relationships.

-D Former Client

Jill has helped me change my attitude and therefore my life.  I am grateful for her wisdom and suggestions that have helped me improve in so many of my relationships.  I look forward to my visits with her always. Since starting with Jill I have met and married the love of my life.

-H Former Client

I cannot express enough my gratitude to Jill. She has an amazing, comforting, and straight forward approach that helps to center you and will bring things into perspective. Be prepared to learn unique tools to use in your daily life, to laugh a little easier, and accept yourself and your feelings. Thank you so much Jill, you’re a true wonder.

-J Former Client

I’ve been having sessions with Jill for a month now and I feel sooo much better. I have learned to communicate and understand people better. I highly recommend reading her book because it gives you a new view on life. Thank you so much Jill!

-C Former Client

Ms. Jill was always kind and understanding, and then suggested an alternate method of thinking, that allows you to move forward, content and happy. She is my unbiased friend, who gave me the courage to stand up for myself, and value my opinion and feelings in my relationships. 3 years later, now happily married, I still ask myself, "what would Ms. Jill suggest I do?” I would not be where I am now without her.

-H Former Client

Jill Payne has been extremely helpful to me for navigating through the complexities of dating and the challenges of making a relationship work. Her positive style has enhanced my confidence and her practical advice is easy to follow and just makes sense. After many years of picking the wrong men, I recently got married for the first time to a man that is just right for me. As a couple in our 40's, we brought our fair share of baggage into the relationship, so there have been bumps in the road, but Jill has helped me realize we can work through our issues and have a loving, happy relationship. I highly recommend Jill for help with dating and relationships.

-J Former Client

I have known Jill Robin Payne for over 10 years. During that time, I have faced many challenges in my life, particularly in the dating world. Jill was always my first source of advice as her insights and recommendations would prove to be right on target. Jill gives very wise counsel and does it with humor and grace. I am now happily married.

-C Former Client

"Jill Robin Payne is that rare combination: An expert guest who doesn't talk over the heads of the general public... Jill talks WITH people, in easily understood language that clearly imparts her common sense message. She's also dependable and reliable."

-Jim Bohannon, Nationally Syndicated Radio Host & National Radio Hall of Fame Recipient

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Jill's Books

Check out all of Jill’s published books and learn about how you can unlock a brighter future with Bempathy®.

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"Jill truly is a miracle worker when it comes to relationships. She uses the power of communication to help couples work through their differences. Prepare to be amazed at how much stronger your relationship will be through her techniques."

-Rita Garcia, ABC13 Houston

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Relationship Fulfillment

Relationship counseling is not just for married couples or people with issues. It is both preventive and beneficial for various aspects of life.

skills we can improve...

  • Boost self-esteem and trust
  • Improve communication skills
  • Feeling connected by fostering stronger connections and friendships
  • Overcome challenges in single or married life
  • Enhance existing relationships, including family and colleagues

we achieve this through...

  • Expanding knowledge of healthy patterns
  • Utilizing Bempathy® a process of bantering with empathy 
  • Understanding different perspectives
  • Learning others’ lingos and rules
  • Cultivating a positive attitude and mindfulness of self and others
  • Building cohesion through finding common ground


Anxiety doesn’t develop overnight; it’s often a gradual process triggered by social engagements, self-consciousness, and nervousness.

skills we can improve...

  • Feel calm and confident in social interactions
  • Embrace new people and situations with excitement
  • Motivate yourself to engage in social activities
  • Foster positive relationships with friends and colleagues
  • Build assertiveness and overcome self-consciousness
  • Reduce anxiety, improve mood, and increase eye contact

we achieve this through...

  • Applying empathetic communication to create a safe environment 
  • Mastering Bempathy’s 6 C’s boosts social skills
  • Problem-solving and mirroring techniques
  • Incorporating Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT)
  • Engaging in Bempathy games, like the “What If” game
  • Understanding different communication styles and limits


Stress impacts everyone, affecting our moods, emotions and trauma.  This hinders our goals and life experiences. Seeking guidance is crucial.

skills we can improve...

  • Heal past trauma
  • Alleviate feelings of emptiness, loneliness, or sadness
  • Manage anger and irritability
  • Increase motivation and stability
  • Overcome constant worries
  • Reduce emotional and physical pain
  • Improve focus and decrease crying episodes

we achieve this through...

  • Engaging in empathetic communication to establish safety
  • Utilizing the Bempathy® Triangle for a broader view
  • Building life skills and providing emotional support
  • Recognizing that everyone’s journey is unique
  • Enhancing self-awareness and challenging negative thoughts
  • Finding personalized strategies and a supportive network

Life Success

Life success is attainable for everyone. 

skills we can improve...

  • Guidance and motivation
  • Overcoming personal and professional challenges
  • Clarifying goals and developing new strategies for more success
  • Enhancing overall well-being and fulfillment
  • Empowering yourself to make positive changes

we achieve this through...

  • Engaging in empathetic communication to set goals collaboratively
  • Creating action plans, accountability, and skill acquisition
  • Empower self-reflection with Bempathy’s Map of Reflection®
  • Embracing diverse perspectives and paths to more success
  • Obtaining a powerful network of people


Addiction is not the result of weak willpower or moral failing.  It is a complex condition influenced by biology, psychology, and environment.

skills we can improve...

  • Rebuild and empower relationships using Bempathy’s reciprocal banter
  • Gain support throughout the recovery process
  • Achieve sobriety and overcome addiction
  • Develop coping strategies for triggers and cravings
  • Understand underlying factors contributing to addiction
  • Improve overall health and well-being
  • Prevent relapse and enhance personal growth

we achieve this through...

  • Applying empathetic communication and developing individualized plans
  • Creating a supportive safe environment
  • Employing stress management techniques
  • Enhancing problem-solving skills
  • Cultivating healthier habits and routine     


EAGALA Equine Psychotherapy assists you in growing and learning how to better your life with the help of horses.

skills we can improve...

  • Self-discovery
  • Self-exploration
  • Problem solving
  • Overcoming challenges

we achieve this through...

  • Working as a team – you, therapist, equine specialist and horses
  • Solution focused – You making decisions 
  • Increasing confidence
  • Being accountable
  • Using creative thinking
  • Being mindful