- Are you married or have a partner
- Are you wanting to be heard and appreciated
- But for some reason you feel like you’re just existing
People want to be heard and appreciated. When people have been together for a while, the other person becomes “old hat.” You get used to each other and may start taking each other for granted. Not in a negative way just when something or someone is constantly available it gets “old.” For example when a man and a woman are sitting at home and decide “we need to engage more.” Their usual evening consisted of coming home saying “hi” to each other and then going right to the kitchen to get food. Of course once you get the food it needs to be eaten while watching “mindless” TV. So both of you sit in chairs on opposite ends of the living room, eating and watching TV mindlessly. This activity lasts of course until you go to bed. One of you may even stay up later and watch the TV, so you go to bed alone. Sometimes because of snoring or problems sleeping you may even go into a separate room. The next day you both look at each other while getting ready for work or getting on with your day. You both pass by each other yet again to say “hi” and then go about your business.
What happened to the “Positive Attention”, the passionate kisses, the laughing, it’s gone like the wind.
- Prioritize your daily life activities
- Eliminate the negative, cumbersome or unnecessary things in your day
- Find something fun that the two of you both like doing and ‘do it’
- Do a ‘change up”; doing the same old thing gets boring
- Eliminate distractions
The most important thing is: “Change your environment to help motivate you to get you what you want and where you need to go.”
Hit “He thought; She said” to read a scenario of a couple “wanting attention.” Find out what he thought she said and how they handled it.